Sunday, June 02, 2013
Value of Money
We all understand and appreciate the value of money. But, money means different things to different people.
For me it is just a means to some specific ends. In that sense, money is important and valuable.
But, is it more valuable than relations? Can money be actually a reason for losing relations?
This I believe, is a very personal assessment.
There was a time when I would be aghast when someone would let a relation go by, not money. Over a period of time I accepted the fact that different people have different needs and point of view.
I derive my security from being me, someone derives it by having their loved ones around them and some by possessing money.
We all have heard that we don't take anything with us, all we would have in the end is the relations we have formed. The ones who value money generally have the opinion that if I have money I will have people around me. After all, like attracts like. Moreover, who has seen what happens after death.
Different point of views. I am happy with mine but it does not give me the right to force my point of view on any one else.
For me, money is valuable but relations are priceless! No one is asking me to change my point of view, then who am I to ask someone else to be like me!
It is also taught that don't judge anyone. Yet, we invariably end up judging people who value money more!
Why judge? Live & let live!
Saturday, December 01, 2012
Sexual Exploitation, Another Story!
Just a few days after I posted a blog on
Sexual Exploitation at work , I came to know of another story.
Strictly, technically speaking, it is not really sexual exploitation, but more of taking advantage of a situation. But, the point is, any experience with unwanted sexual undertones leave an impact on the woman's mind!
Coming to the story.
Due to the nature of my job, I keep meeting people from various companies. That day was no different and I reached the place of meeting at the designated hour. The lady I had to meet had recently joined and we got talking and hit off well. A meeting which was suppose to be a serious, formal business meeting turned into a fun, a bit of giggly affair between two girls!
The girl in question was really accomplished and I thought was under employed at her current position. So, I voiced my opinion and she suddenly became silent. I was about to apologise as I thought I may have crossed my line when she started talking. She conveyed that she resigned from her last company under not so happy circumstances.
She had become an eye sore for some colleagues (male colleagues) as she was doing well and was good at her work. Two male colleagues in her team took her performance a bit personally and started harassing her. Unnecessary snide remarks were made which made life difficult for her.
She complained to the manager but in vain. The manager was very pally to one of the two colleagues so shielded them and told this girl that she is imagining things. The male colleagues continued to be non-cooperative and made sexually loaded comments. This started affecting her performance and her morale. Her manager gave her a bad appraisal based on her performance of last 2-3 months. Her performance for the better part of the year was ignored as if it never existed. To make things worse, out of the two colleagues who were harassing her was promoted and she was asked to report to him. He actually had the guts to come to her and say, 'Let's forget the past and work together to be the best team in the company'. She realised that if she worked well, she can continue to be a star performer but that would also mean that the male colleague would gain & get credit as he heads the team. If she doesn't do well, she may face more such situations. Hence, she quit!
It may not have seemed like a good decision then but it all turned out well for her in the end and today she is doing very well for herself.
My point here is, she is getting what she deserved now where as it should have come to her earlier. Due to a sick mind she had to lose out on something which was truly hers!
Sexual Exploitation at work , I came to know of another story.
Strictly, technically speaking, it is not really sexual exploitation, but more of taking advantage of a situation. But, the point is, any experience with unwanted sexual undertones leave an impact on the woman's mind!
Coming to the story.
Due to the nature of my job, I keep meeting people from various companies. That day was no different and I reached the place of meeting at the designated hour. The lady I had to meet had recently joined and we got talking and hit off well. A meeting which was suppose to be a serious, formal business meeting turned into a fun, a bit of giggly affair between two girls!
The girl in question was really accomplished and I thought was under employed at her current position. So, I voiced my opinion and she suddenly became silent. I was about to apologise as I thought I may have crossed my line when she started talking. She conveyed that she resigned from her last company under not so happy circumstances.
She had become an eye sore for some colleagues (male colleagues) as she was doing well and was good at her work. Two male colleagues in her team took her performance a bit personally and started harassing her. Unnecessary snide remarks were made which made life difficult for her.
She complained to the manager but in vain. The manager was very pally to one of the two colleagues so shielded them and told this girl that she is imagining things. The male colleagues continued to be non-cooperative and made sexually loaded comments. This started affecting her performance and her morale. Her manager gave her a bad appraisal based on her performance of last 2-3 months. Her performance for the better part of the year was ignored as if it never existed. To make things worse, out of the two colleagues who were harassing her was promoted and she was asked to report to him. He actually had the guts to come to her and say, 'Let's forget the past and work together to be the best team in the company'. She realised that if she worked well, she can continue to be a star performer but that would also mean that the male colleague would gain & get credit as he heads the team. If she doesn't do well, she may face more such situations. Hence, she quit!
It may not have seemed like a good decision then but it all turned out well for her in the end and today she is doing very well for herself.
My point here is, she is getting what she deserved now where as it should have come to her earlier. Due to a sick mind she had to lose out on something which was truly hers!
Friday, July 02, 2010
Sexual exploitation @ work
Women across the world are familiar with this.
Many have had first hand experience & the lucky few have just heard stories. Sometimes, life throws you in tricky situations yet gets you out scratch free.
Recently, I came across the story of a girl who had a brush with sexual exploitation.
The story goes....
Anamika had recently joined the corporate world after her MBA. Like every other enthusiastic fresher, she plunged into the new world with full vigour & excitement.
Her job was client servicing & business development.
She, within few months had impressed her seniors with her diligence & work. Therefore, to encourage her & to use her potential to the maximum, the company gave her a very prestigious client to handle. All was going smooth & things were looking up for her.
One fine day she managed to get a big project from the high profile client. The head of operations at the client end seemed to be a nice & helpful person. He was very encouraging & that gave Anamika more confidence to push her companies case infront of the head operations. Anamika's hard work & diligence paid & she got the project. Her happiness knew no bounds.
But, the happiness was short lived. The coordination involved in the new project was very complicated & tiresome. Suddenly the client seemed non-cooperative. The client pre-poned the deadline of delivery & that put lot of stress on Anamika & her company.
With the help of the seniors in her company she devised a plan to workout the whole thing & deliver the project by the preponed deadline. The head of operations at the client end was kept in loop. Anamika had to go for an important meeting in relation to the project and that is when the head operations offered his help & said that he would accompany her to the meeting. This was a big help for Anamika as a man with so many years of experience would always add weight to her case.
The place of meeting was almost at the outskirts of the city, so, the head of operations conveyed that he would pick her up & they could go together in his car for the meeting.
At the designated time the head of operations picked her up and they set out to a long drive to the place of meeting.
Anamika was by now used to the constant frown & disapproving look from the head of operation but was in for a surprise today. She felt a sense of relief to see the smiling & chatty mood of the Head of operation.
The head of operation started asking Anamika about her life in the city & her background. Slowly his questions turned more personal and he started questioning her about her 'close' friends, boyfriends, her take on physical intimacy etc. She started getting very uncomfortable about the discussion but was unable to find a way to change the topic or express her discomfort/displeasure. Her non-decisiveness encouraged him further & he started talking about him & her and telling her that they should become 'closer' friends. He went on to add that he likes talking to her & would continue to 'help' her if she would agree to be his 'friend'.
She was getting confused, for she believed that friendship cannot happen through a deal, if one is destined to be friends they become friends.
While Anamika was confused and tried to make sense of the whole thing, the head of operation tried to reach her and hold her hand. She managed to dodge him. She was now feeling scared as now she was able to understand what this man meant. She opened her mouth to clarify the 'misunderstanding' and he immediately interrupted her and asked her to speak only in English and not to make sudden movement like she had done to dodge him. After all the driver could see and he would understand if she spoke in Hindi. Aah! The driver. Anamika suddenly felt a bit relieved. This man would not attempt anything till the driver was around, after all the head of operations was married with kids.. He had a 'reputation' to 'protect'.
With this knowledge she became a bit bold and managed to keep the head of operations at bay. Once they reached the place of meeting, she felt more confident & secure and had a plan in place. When the head of operations was not looking, she called one of her friends asking her to call her back exactly in 30 mins.
When the friend called back she posed as if something has gone horribly wrong at another place where a part of the work of the same client was being carried out. So, she requested the head of operations to 'tackle' the rest of the meeting here & that she needs to rush to the other place immediately. The head of operations had no option but to fall in line with her plan.
She ran from the place like she had just seen a ghost and thanked God for sending the driver as an angel whose presence helped her come out of the situation unscratched and wiser.
Through the rest of the execution of the order she managed to maintain a safe distance from the head of operation or meet him only when there were more people around.
Once the project got over, she unofficially spoke to her boss about the whole thing. The boss immediately understood her problem and moved her away from the account. Yes, she lost a very prestigious account but her santity and respect was more important.
What saddened me in this whole story was that Anamika had to be penalised without any fault of her. The whole incident was so situational that no one could actually make a complain about the head of operation. He went Scot free, free to harass some other innocent girl!
A girl when she works hard to rise in her career there are such people she has to encounter who are ready to pull her down or if she does not want to give up, she needs to go through them. So very unfair. Will this ever change, I wonder!
Many have had first hand experience & the lucky few have just heard stories. Sometimes, life throws you in tricky situations yet gets you out scratch free.
Recently, I came across the story of a girl who had a brush with sexual exploitation.
The story goes....
Anamika had recently joined the corporate world after her MBA. Like every other enthusiastic fresher, she plunged into the new world with full vigour & excitement.
Her job was client servicing & business development.
She, within few months had impressed her seniors with her diligence & work. Therefore, to encourage her & to use her potential to the maximum, the company gave her a very prestigious client to handle. All was going smooth & things were looking up for her.
One fine day she managed to get a big project from the high profile client. The head of operations at the client end seemed to be a nice & helpful person. He was very encouraging & that gave Anamika more confidence to push her companies case infront of the head operations. Anamika's hard work & diligence paid & she got the project. Her happiness knew no bounds.
But, the happiness was short lived. The coordination involved in the new project was very complicated & tiresome. Suddenly the client seemed non-cooperative. The client pre-poned the deadline of delivery & that put lot of stress on Anamika & her company.
With the help of the seniors in her company she devised a plan to workout the whole thing & deliver the project by the preponed deadline. The head of operations at the client end was kept in loop. Anamika had to go for an important meeting in relation to the project and that is when the head operations offered his help & said that he would accompany her to the meeting. This was a big help for Anamika as a man with so many years of experience would always add weight to her case.
The place of meeting was almost at the outskirts of the city, so, the head of operations conveyed that he would pick her up & they could go together in his car for the meeting.
At the designated time the head of operations picked her up and they set out to a long drive to the place of meeting.
Anamika was by now used to the constant frown & disapproving look from the head of operation but was in for a surprise today. She felt a sense of relief to see the smiling & chatty mood of the Head of operation.
The head of operation started asking Anamika about her life in the city & her background. Slowly his questions turned more personal and he started questioning her about her 'close' friends, boyfriends, her take on physical intimacy etc. She started getting very uncomfortable about the discussion but was unable to find a way to change the topic or express her discomfort/displeasure. Her non-decisiveness encouraged him further & he started talking about him & her and telling her that they should become 'closer' friends. He went on to add that he likes talking to her & would continue to 'help' her if she would agree to be his 'friend'.
She was getting confused, for she believed that friendship cannot happen through a deal, if one is destined to be friends they become friends.
While Anamika was confused and tried to make sense of the whole thing, the head of operation tried to reach her and hold her hand. She managed to dodge him. She was now feeling scared as now she was able to understand what this man meant. She opened her mouth to clarify the 'misunderstanding' and he immediately interrupted her and asked her to speak only in English and not to make sudden movement like she had done to dodge him. After all the driver could see and he would understand if she spoke in Hindi. Aah! The driver. Anamika suddenly felt a bit relieved. This man would not attempt anything till the driver was around, after all the head of operations was married with kids.. He had a 'reputation' to 'protect'.
With this knowledge she became a bit bold and managed to keep the head of operations at bay. Once they reached the place of meeting, she felt more confident & secure and had a plan in place. When the head of operations was not looking, she called one of her friends asking her to call her back exactly in 30 mins.
When the friend called back she posed as if something has gone horribly wrong at another place where a part of the work of the same client was being carried out. So, she requested the head of operations to 'tackle' the rest of the meeting here & that she needs to rush to the other place immediately. The head of operations had no option but to fall in line with her plan.
She ran from the place like she had just seen a ghost and thanked God for sending the driver as an angel whose presence helped her come out of the situation unscratched and wiser.
Through the rest of the execution of the order she managed to maintain a safe distance from the head of operation or meet him only when there were more people around.
Once the project got over, she unofficially spoke to her boss about the whole thing. The boss immediately understood her problem and moved her away from the account. Yes, she lost a very prestigious account but her santity and respect was more important.
What saddened me in this whole story was that Anamika had to be penalised without any fault of her. The whole incident was so situational that no one could actually make a complain about the head of operation. He went Scot free, free to harass some other innocent girl!
A girl when she works hard to rise in her career there are such people she has to encounter who are ready to pull her down or if she does not want to give up, she needs to go through them. So very unfair. Will this ever change, I wonder!
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Past Imperfect!
Past, has most of the time, brought a smile on my face. I cherish my memories of the 'good old days'...
I used to wonder, how will it be, to be able to relive/re-experience the past.
Then came along social networking sites like Orkut & FB.
Soon, there was a flood of know/some-what known faces.
A lot of 'networking' on social networking sites later, I got back in touch with many of my old friends (some foes too, but thats a different story & will come back to it later)... Many, I would have never found, but for the social networking sites.
Many 'conversations' followed. Chats, mails, sms, phone calls... Distance suddenly became immaterial. I entered my past with gay abandmonment, to relive it all over again.....
But, life is all about moving on... The initial euphoria died its own death. The friends remain & will for ever but, the equations have changed.
It is sometime difficult to take in that friends who were so close once, have become aquintence. Some, surface only when it's time to wish on an occassion. Few, don't even do that!
Let's stay in touch, I guess has become the most common, never followed line.
Yet, there is a silver lining.
I used to wonder, how will it be, to be able to relive/re-experience the past.
Then came along social networking sites like Orkut & FB.
Soon, there was a flood of know/some-what known faces.
A lot of 'networking' on social networking sites later, I got back in touch with many of my old friends (some foes too, but thats a different story & will come back to it later)... Many, I would have never found, but for the social networking sites.
Many 'conversations' followed. Chats, mails, sms, phone calls... Distance suddenly became immaterial. I entered my past with gay abandmonment, to relive it all over again.....
But, life is all about moving on... The initial euphoria died its own death. The friends remain & will for ever but, the equations have changed.
It is sometime difficult to take in that friends who were so close once, have become aquintence. Some, surface only when it's time to wish on an occassion. Few, don't even do that!
Let's stay in touch, I guess has become the most common, never followed line.
Yet, there is a silver lining.
Wednesday, March 03, 2010
Whom does Bombay belong to?
'Aamchi Mumbai' is a very old term know to ALL who have ever lived or been to the city called Bombay.
I love the city and have spent some wonderful years living & working in the city. Bombay belongs to me... Most definitely it does.. But some say NO.
Some recent, politically motivated acts have created unnecessary discussions on, whom does Bombay belong to?
I was never good in History but have some basic knowledge in its right place.
So, I know that Bombay was once a clutter of seven islands, disconnected from each other.
The earliest inhabitants of the place were a community called 'Kolis', a fishing community. So, the kolis are the 'original' natives of Bombay & the city is theirs!
During 3rd century BCE, the place was ruled by 'Maurya Empire'. The kingdom originates from Magadh (modern Bihar, eastern Uttar Pradesh and Bengal)with it's capital at Patliputra (modern Patna). So, the next claimants to the city are the very people who are being asked to leave Bombay, the Biharis & UPiets.!. By the way during the Magadh empire, art, culture, development of city as Hindu & budhist centre started to take root.
The city was later taken over by 'Sihara dynasty'. What little I know of the dynasty, points that they originated from Southern part of the country and/or outskirts of present day Maharastra. So, South India has a claim on the city too.
Around 14th Century, the city went under islamic rule, the 'Gujurat Sultanate', with there base in Ahemedabad. During this period the Haji Ali mosque was built. So, Gujurati's have a claim on the city too.
Later, through a treaty, the city came under Portuguese rule & then under English rule. The economic & infrastructural development were the highlights of the city in 19th Century when it was under the British rule. We all our aware of the first railway line laid between Bombay & Thane. This was the period when the foundation of Bombay becoming a business hub was laid. Many business men from Kutch, Sind, Gujurat got attracted to the city. The reclaiming of land from the sea to join the seven island also happened during British rule. So, Britishers have a big role in making the city what it is today.
The presence of Maratha's is noted ONLY during the independence struggle.
Post independence too, Bombay was not part of Maharastra, it was an independent state named Bombay State.
The Government buckled under pressure & in 1960, Bombay became a part of Maharastra.
Considering this background of the city, how can ANYONE claim whom the city belongs to? The whole thing seems as ridiculous as saying that Delhi belongs to UP!
Infact, it would have made perfect sense had the city been left alone as a separate state/UT.
I love the city, it is one of the best place to stay in the country, let's not spoil that. But, is anyone listening?
I love the city and have spent some wonderful years living & working in the city. Bombay belongs to me... Most definitely it does.. But some say NO.
Some recent, politically motivated acts have created unnecessary discussions on, whom does Bombay belong to?
I was never good in History but have some basic knowledge in its right place.
So, I know that Bombay was once a clutter of seven islands, disconnected from each other.
The earliest inhabitants of the place were a community called 'Kolis', a fishing community. So, the kolis are the 'original' natives of Bombay & the city is theirs!
During 3rd century BCE, the place was ruled by 'Maurya Empire'. The kingdom originates from Magadh (modern Bihar, eastern Uttar Pradesh and Bengal)with it's capital at Patliputra (modern Patna). So, the next claimants to the city are the very people who are being asked to leave Bombay, the Biharis & UPiets.!. By the way during the Magadh empire, art, culture, development of city as Hindu & budhist centre started to take root.
The city was later taken over by 'Sihara dynasty'. What little I know of the dynasty, points that they originated from Southern part of the country and/or outskirts of present day Maharastra. So, South India has a claim on the city too.
Around 14th Century, the city went under islamic rule, the 'Gujurat Sultanate', with there base in Ahemedabad. During this period the Haji Ali mosque was built. So, Gujurati's have a claim on the city too.
Later, through a treaty, the city came under Portuguese rule & then under English rule. The economic & infrastructural development were the highlights of the city in 19th Century when it was under the British rule. We all our aware of the first railway line laid between Bombay & Thane. This was the period when the foundation of Bombay becoming a business hub was laid. Many business men from Kutch, Sind, Gujurat got attracted to the city. The reclaiming of land from the sea to join the seven island also happened during British rule. So, Britishers have a big role in making the city what it is today.
The presence of Maratha's is noted ONLY during the independence struggle.
Post independence too, Bombay was not part of Maharastra, it was an independent state named Bombay State.
The Government buckled under pressure & in 1960, Bombay became a part of Maharastra.
Considering this background of the city, how can ANYONE claim whom the city belongs to? The whole thing seems as ridiculous as saying that Delhi belongs to UP!
Infact, it would have made perfect sense had the city been left alone as a separate state/UT.
I love the city, it is one of the best place to stay in the country, let's not spoil that. But, is anyone listening?
Friday, July 10, 2009
Monday, July 06, 2009
Happy & openly Gay
The reason for my happiness has nothing to do with my orientations but the thought behind it & the maturity of the decision.
I don't understand why do we have this urge to control everything, even grown up adults. Are we of the opinion that a person who can run his own business, take care of his family, can become an international success, take many important decision yet need to be policed on some basic desires & wants? Law is a mechanism to keep things civilised and in order, but the extent of the same need to be defined by us.
The high court decision on merit needs to be applauded, damn the fanatics.
The day the decision was passed I chanced to see a panel discussion on TV regarding the decision. One of the panelist, a so called guru seemed perturbed by the court decision and said something to the effect that due to this decision, human race is in danger as all would want to be with a partner of same sex (as if one is getting some special favour or perk by doing so!) and was concerned on the future of the process of reproduction! This sounded so hilarious & it became the joke of the day for me.
My lawyer cousin had come home the other day and among many things we discussed this decision too. He explained the basic crux of Article 377 & I was taken aback by something he said.
As per the article 377 one could be booked in case he/she indulged in three kind of sex viz: Anal, Oral &/or with animal. Further, the it says that the complain can be lodged by third party too. This was a shocker. Physical intimacy is a very person thing & how can law allow & consider it ok for a third person to peep into someones private space! Shouldn't such complainant booked under trespassing!
Strange are the laws of the land!!!!!
In the mean time lets rejoice for this may be just the beginning for the law getting more human! A wish of an eternal optimist!!! :)
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Thursday, July 02, 2009
Emotions............
A chemical 'locha' as per a famous hindi movie or something more...
Why do we feel emotions.. How?????
It's such an interesting topic yet never thought about it till now....
According to Wikipedia....
An emotion is a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behavior. Emotions are subjective experiences, or experienced from an individual point of view. Emotion is often associated with mood, temperament, personality, and disposition.
Emotions is what we feel.. Right???
Sometimes then, if the same situation/person presents itself infront of us at different times why do we react differently.
There would be many examples where our feelings or emotions were different for a person one day & after sometime without any apperent change in status quo, the feelings changes.
Sometimes you feel a rush of emotions & at other times you are cold. Why?
What happens if an emotion like love is not reciprocated?
It can many times take life. Is emotion that strong chemical 'locha' that it can cause someone to take anothers' or one own selfs' life....
Why is it that on certain days when one gets up, is singing & on another growling at everything coming infront of it!
May be I don't understand emotions atall or 'am completely ruled by it!
Why can't there be a standard for behaviour.. It would make life so simple & easy... Maybe a bit boring too.. But still it may just help!
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Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Why????????
I find this irritating.. Its then better to stay away from such 'friends'......
I intend doing that from now on!
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Aah! here I come with another song which I like a lot.......
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna
Angana phool khilege
Barsega saawan, barsega saawan Jhoom jhoom ke
Do dil aise milenge
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna
Angana phool khilege
Naina tere kajrare
Naino pe hum dil hare hai
Anjane hi tere naino ne
Waade kiye kaie saare hai
Waade kiye kaie saare hai
Saanso he leher madam chale
To tu kahe barsega saawan Barsega saawan jhoom jhoom ke
Do dil aise milenge
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna
Angana phool khilege
Chanda ko uta lakho mein
Yeh zindagi tere haton mein
Palko pe jil mil tare hai
Aana bahri barsato mein
Sapno ka jahan
Hoga khila khila
Barsega saawan, barsega saawan Jhoom jhoom ke
Do dil aise milenge
A very soulful melody with wonderful lyrics.......A song ful of hope & future.... Love it!
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Profession Flaunting......
A very weird phenomenon which I have observed in recent past is flaunting ones profession....
Many have started putting stickers on there vehicle announcing to the world their profession. I am sure many would have noticed & also done this them selves.
This phenomenon (if my memory serves me correctly) was restricted to Government vehicles including Defence (but not personal vehicles of employees) & Doctors few years back.
Government Vehicles used it basically to get priority on road & easy access everywhere without stopping & proving identity. The Doctor sign was more for ready help in a pre - mobile era.
In recent years the trend spread it wings to many more sectors & professions & I find it funny.
Defence: Army, Navy or Air Force pasted on the windscreen or mud guard of two wheeler was done basically due to registration plate. Defence along with certain section of Central govt employees have a highly transferable jobs & they can't change registration numbers of their vehicle every two years so the stickers served the purpose of being not stopped & questioned by traffic cops.
Press: This started as a means to get easy access to the "News". But with the increase in the number of media houses, it has reached such levels that about every 5th Car flaunts a 'PRESS' tag. Anybody who has anything remotely to do with print/electronic/radio media starts using this so called label. I have even seen vendors of these companies (I call them companies n not media houses coz they are just business entities, all of them without exception) who supply just the regular office stationery also use it for their 'perceived' benefit.
Other Professions: Today even a lawyer has a sticker on his vehicle. I do not understand the purpose it would serve. May be I am naive.
Once a colleague told me (about the sticker on her car) that it helps. Helps? I asked. Well, it helps when I drive outside the city especially to my relatives place who are not living in a metro.
Now I get it. You want to flaunt it, it has become a trend & a status symbol of sorts. Actually, flaunt what you are not. Because PRESS has a specific need and use & every person working in Media does not come under the blanket of Press....
25 Things About Me.....
I was tagged to the topic by Anu Di & this is what I came up with..............
1. I still don't know what I wanna do in life.... (I'm a wanderer)
2. I love fantasies & living in dreamland... (No wonder I love sleeping)
3. I have at few occasions beaten up men (read eve teasers) & got away with it everytime.
4. I'm a very straight forward, in your face, simple person, yet many find me very complicated...
5.I love prasing myself & love it even more when people appreciate/compliment me... (I may manage to maintain a straight face but I'm over the moon at that moment)
6. I love acting & do a good job at it.
7. I'm an incorrigible flirt & do a good job at it too.
8. My views on marriage prompt my friends to comment that I'm an old timer who has landed in new age by mistake.
9. I love driving & enjoy my music with it. But I love riding my scooter more.
10. I can go any length for my friends.
11. I wanna participate in rally driving atleast once.
12. I wanna write a book sometime in future (I have many ideas already jumping in my head). I love reading fiction/non fiction too.
13. I am an extremely lazy person & donno how I have typed so much...
14. I'm multifaced, self contradicting personality and believe in Richard Bach's idea of parallel/alternate dimensions...
15. I love to dance & be merry!
16. I hate to take bath everyday but do it anyways!
17. I love to swim, ride bicycle, play Basket ball & watch cricket but have not done it for a long time!!!
18. I have a dark/illegal side but have managed to curb it.
19. I think I have found my soulmate (I thank God for it everyday)
20. I'm exteremely critical of myself & full of self doubt.
21. I'm not as confident & fearless as I potray.
22. I donno english & am very unsure while using the language.
23. I hate questions like, "What is your plan for your future?" (I donno what I would do the next minute!!! Future is out of focus entirely)
24. I love life & try to extract the maximum from each day.
25. I am surprised at myself. I had thought I wouldnot be able to go beyond 10!!!
1. I still don't know what I wanna do in life.... (I'm a wanderer)
2. I love fantasies & living in dreamland... (No wonder I love sleeping)
3. I have at few occasions beaten up men (read eve teasers) & got away with it everytime.
4. I'm a very straight forward, in your face, simple person, yet many find me very complicated...
5.I love prasing myself & love it even more when people appreciate/compliment me... (I may manage to maintain a straight face but I'm over the moon at that moment)
6. I love acting & do a good job at it.
7. I'm an incorrigible flirt & do a good job at it too.
8. My views on marriage prompt my friends to comment that I'm an old timer who has landed in new age by mistake.
9. I love driving & enjoy my music with it. But I love riding my scooter more.
10. I can go any length for my friends.
11. I wanna participate in rally driving atleast once.
12. I wanna write a book sometime in future (I have many ideas already jumping in my head). I love reading fiction/non fiction too.
13. I am an extremely lazy person & donno how I have typed so much...
14. I'm multifaced, self contradicting personality and believe in Richard Bach's idea of parallel/alternate dimensions...
15. I love to dance & be merry!
16. I hate to take bath everyday but do it anyways!
17. I love to swim, ride bicycle, play Basket ball & watch cricket but have not done it for a long time!!!
18. I have a dark/illegal side but have managed to curb it.
19. I think I have found my soulmate (I thank God for it everyday)
20. I'm exteremely critical of myself & full of self doubt.
21. I'm not as confident & fearless as I potray.
22. I donno english & am very unsure while using the language.
23. I hate questions like, "What is your plan for your future?" (I donno what I would do the next minute!!! Future is out of focus entirely)
24. I love life & try to extract the maximum from each day.
25. I am surprised at myself. I had thought I wouldnot be able to go beyond 10!!!
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
The Girl Child…….
There is lot being said about the female foeticide and maybe a lot is also done to prevent it! Moreover, the boy vs girl comparisons never end. In middle of all this I read Mr. Amitabh Bachchan's blog and his speech delivered at Ms. Shobha De's book launch. After reading his blog entry, I couldn't resist my flow of thoughts and posted a comment there.
I am reproducing my comment here.....
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Should I thank God? I ask this to myself quite often! One may ask, why?
The reason, we are a family of four and I’m the youngest. My parents have two daughters! I dont think (or rather believe) that my parents ever thought that we being girls are any less than anyone in the world or they as Parents of ‘just’ girls are in any way inferior/’different’. The point here is also that when my sister was born there was pure joy all around. But, with my birth the joy was a notch lesser. Here I’m not talking of my parents but few members of our extended family and friends!
I remember people asking me ‘You don't have a brother!??!!’ As if it was a sin! I felt bad.
But, I know I’m one of the God’s special child and that's why can bounce back with optimism, smile and all things positive almost immediately. My grandparents were also extremely protective of me and my Parents against any comment made on the female gender and I don’t think they ever treated me or my sister any different from my male cousins.
In spite of the attitude of my family I’m aware that I’m a girl child! I shudder at the thought, what a child would be going through where there is discrimination.
Women today have come a long way but still there is lot that needs to be done and at that point when you see a person of your stature (Referred to Mr. Bachchan) and influence taking up the cause, one feels that one day this battle would definitely be won!
Thank You God once again for such people!
Regards, Rashi
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Yes its true, though I have never faced any discrimination at home, I'm still aware about such comparisons....
Be it studies, falling in love, working or driving a vehicle...... Girls are looked down upon...
Certain comments I have heard over the years (some targeted at me some at other females)
1. Ladki ho jayada pad ke kya karogi? Tumhe to ghar he sambhalna hai. (You are a girl, whats the need to attain higher education? At the end of it all you have to just take care of the household work)
2. Bank Cash Counter Line/ Railway reservation line: The line is moving very slow as there is memsaab (lady) sitting there.
3. The girl is very smart! She managed to entangle that bright and intelligent boy in her web of love by batting eyelid!
4. Did you see that vehicle? It swinged so dangerously! I'm sure a girl must be driving it.
5. A freak accident: I'm sure a girl is behind it!
6. Oh its all so easy for the girls, they come decked up to office and take the promotion!
There are many more..... But the point is will we ever stop behaving this way?
I am reproducing my comment here.....
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Should I thank God? I ask this to myself quite often! One may ask, why?
The reason, we are a family of four and I’m the youngest. My parents have two daughters! I dont think (or rather believe) that my parents ever thought that we being girls are any less than anyone in the world or they as Parents of ‘just’ girls are in any way inferior/’different’. The point here is also that when my sister was born there was pure joy all around. But, with my birth the joy was a notch lesser. Here I’m not talking of my parents but few members of our extended family and friends!
I remember people asking me ‘You don't have a brother!??!!’ As if it was a sin! I felt bad.
But, I know I’m one of the God’s special child and that's why can bounce back with optimism, smile and all things positive almost immediately. My grandparents were also extremely protective of me and my Parents against any comment made on the female gender and I don’t think they ever treated me or my sister any different from my male cousins.
In spite of the attitude of my family I’m aware that I’m a girl child! I shudder at the thought, what a child would be going through where there is discrimination.
Women today have come a long way but still there is lot that needs to be done and at that point when you see a person of your stature (Referred to Mr. Bachchan) and influence taking up the cause, one feels that one day this battle would definitely be won!
Thank You God once again for such people!
Regards, Rashi
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Yes its true, though I have never faced any discrimination at home, I'm still aware about such comparisons....
Be it studies, falling in love, working or driving a vehicle...... Girls are looked down upon...
Certain comments I have heard over the years (some targeted at me some at other females)
1. Ladki ho jayada pad ke kya karogi? Tumhe to ghar he sambhalna hai. (You are a girl, whats the need to attain higher education? At the end of it all you have to just take care of the household work)
2. Bank Cash Counter Line/ Railway reservation line: The line is moving very slow as there is memsaab (lady) sitting there.
3. The girl is very smart! She managed to entangle that bright and intelligent boy in her web of love by batting eyelid!
4. Did you see that vehicle? It swinged so dangerously! I'm sure a girl must be driving it.
5. A freak accident: I'm sure a girl is behind it!
6. Oh its all so easy for the girls, they come decked up to office and take the promotion!
There are many more..... But the point is will we ever stop behaving this way?
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Boss
In life one interacts with many different types of people. I believe that no two individuals are same and hence never indulge in comparing people. But there are certain traits, temperaments or views which are similar and that's why we can classify people in various categories.
Though I have a very limited experience of corporate life and have a long long way to go before I start forming opinions about people. But this is one community I just can't resist talking about....... Bosses.
Boss is someone you can never ignore. You may not be spending your maximum time in office with this individual but still he/she is in your mind constantly. The reason of the presence of your boss in your thoughts vary and it varies b'coz of the kind of person you are and also on the type of Boss you have.
I am enlisting the types of Bosses I have had the experience to work with or see around me.
1. Insecure Boss: This type of gentlemen/ladies are either dumb (can't help it) or are under confident. The moment they see a smart, intelligent and bright executive there defence mechanisms starts working overtime and in certain case all armour in their kitty comes blazing out. Poor executive... never knows what hit him/her!
2. Workaholic Boss: A person who does not have a personal life of his/her own and thinks that no one in the world has the right to have one. These types expect you to be in office (or on duty) all the time irrespective of the load of work one has. This type thinks that by employing you he/she has made you a slave and you would work as per his/her wimps and fancies; take no leave and even work on official holidays. He/she tends to make a face even if you by mistake mention the word 'Home'.
3. Scheming & Manipulative Boss: If your boss is against you, be rest assured you can never grow or prosper under him/her. The best is to run from that job as fast as possible. Actually this category is also an off shoot of Insecure boss or could be just a sadist!
4. Instant Boss: This person is always in a hurry and expect things to be done before its uttered. He/she has no patience and is always in a rush. Can get very irritating but is generally nice hearted. He/she will take care of you and respect you as an equal. He/she is extremely focused, motivated & motivating.
5. Motivating Boss: This type of boss is one of the best thing to happen to you at your work place. Actually this type is an extension of Instant Boss minus the impatience.
6. Old Glory Boss: This is the kind of boss who is least interested in knowing or looking forward. He/she tends to live in there 'good old days'. This type if not dealt properly can really hamper your career. But, you get to learn a lot from his/her rich experience.
7. Flirt Boss: These are the types who love to use their power over others. Many use their colleagues by showing them carrot or sometimes get used too. This is one category I absolutely hate!
8. Leader Boss: This type in true sense is the one to be feared the most. He/she believes in leading by example and is generally good at his/her job and very confident. They are visionary and always look at the big picture. To make your self stand tall one has to really work hand, but should be fun as this is healthy competition which can benefit all.
& last but not the least
9. Mentor Boss: A selfless person who believes in passing on his/her learnings'. To have a mentor boss especially at an early phase of ones career can go a long way in your success. This type of a person is generally above the rat race or very influential or extremely efficient with high credentials in the field.
The types mentioned above are the types I have seen in my life. There could be bosses who could be a mixed variety ie one or more traits may be present in one person and they would come out depending upon the situation the person is in.
Good or Bad, whatever the type of boss I have faced, I thank them all in helping me refine my personality and help me reduce my imperfections.
My experience with all my bosses has helped me in the long run. I many times didn't understand it, disliked them, abused them but like my Mentor Boss used to say... Look at the BIG PICTURE. Finally, I have started doing that!!!
Though I have a very limited experience of corporate life and have a long long way to go before I start forming opinions about people. But this is one community I just can't resist talking about....... Bosses.
Boss is someone you can never ignore. You may not be spending your maximum time in office with this individual but still he/she is in your mind constantly. The reason of the presence of your boss in your thoughts vary and it varies b'coz of the kind of person you are and also on the type of Boss you have.
I am enlisting the types of Bosses I have had the experience to work with or see around me.
1. Insecure Boss: This type of gentlemen/ladies are either dumb (can't help it) or are under confident. The moment they see a smart, intelligent and bright executive there defence mechanisms starts working overtime and in certain case all armour in their kitty comes blazing out. Poor executive... never knows what hit him/her!
2. Workaholic Boss: A person who does not have a personal life of his/her own and thinks that no one in the world has the right to have one. These types expect you to be in office (or on duty) all the time irrespective of the load of work one has. This type thinks that by employing you he/she has made you a slave and you would work as per his/her wimps and fancies; take no leave and even work on official holidays. He/she tends to make a face even if you by mistake mention the word 'Home'.
3. Scheming & Manipulative Boss: If your boss is against you, be rest assured you can never grow or prosper under him/her. The best is to run from that job as fast as possible. Actually this category is also an off shoot of Insecure boss or could be just a sadist!
4. Instant Boss: This person is always in a hurry and expect things to be done before its uttered. He/she has no patience and is always in a rush. Can get very irritating but is generally nice hearted. He/she will take care of you and respect you as an equal. He/she is extremely focused, motivated & motivating.
5. Motivating Boss: This type of boss is one of the best thing to happen to you at your work place. Actually this type is an extension of Instant Boss minus the impatience.
6. Old Glory Boss: This is the kind of boss who is least interested in knowing or looking forward. He/she tends to live in there 'good old days'. This type if not dealt properly can really hamper your career. But, you get to learn a lot from his/her rich experience.
7. Flirt Boss: These are the types who love to use their power over others. Many use their colleagues by showing them carrot or sometimes get used too. This is one category I absolutely hate!
8. Leader Boss: This type in true sense is the one to be feared the most. He/she believes in leading by example and is generally good at his/her job and very confident. They are visionary and always look at the big picture. To make your self stand tall one has to really work hand, but should be fun as this is healthy competition which can benefit all.
& last but not the least
9. Mentor Boss: A selfless person who believes in passing on his/her learnings'. To have a mentor boss especially at an early phase of ones career can go a long way in your success. This type of a person is generally above the rat race or very influential or extremely efficient with high credentials in the field.
The types mentioned above are the types I have seen in my life. There could be bosses who could be a mixed variety ie one or more traits may be present in one person and they would come out depending upon the situation the person is in.
Good or Bad, whatever the type of boss I have faced, I thank them all in helping me refine my personality and help me reduce my imperfections.
My experience with all my bosses has helped me in the long run. I many times didn't understand it, disliked them, abused them but like my Mentor Boss used to say... Look at the BIG PICTURE. Finally, I have started doing that!!!
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Thougths
I have been planning to write something for a long time but words have started failing me....
I have thoughts......... a lot of them but I'm not able to put words to it.
May be too much of thoughts is the problem. .....
May be my mind is to cluttered that I cant form a specific line of thought.
May be...........
I'm stuck yet again... I can't think of the right words at the moment.
I have written and erased sentences I donno how many times!
Is this a writers block or is it my limited Vocab or my limited thinking.
That's whats called A Contradiction....
I started my blog saying that there are too many thoughts in my mind and now I'm saying that my thinking is limited! and yes my thoughts are all not in the same direction so I don't know if saying that I have limited thinking is true in certain sense.
I guess I'm very confused. That should be the right way to put it.
I have thoughts... I'm thinking a lot but too many thoughts is leaving me confused and effecting the flow of thoughts into words....
I hope I'm able to come out soon from this state.
I have thoughts......... a lot of them but I'm not able to put words to it.
May be too much of thoughts is the problem. .....
May be my mind is to cluttered that I cant form a specific line of thought.
May be...........
I'm stuck yet again... I can't think of the right words at the moment.
I have written and erased sentences I donno how many times!
Is this a writers block or is it my limited Vocab or my limited thinking.
That's whats called A Contradiction....
I started my blog saying that there are too many thoughts in my mind and now I'm saying that my thinking is limited! and yes my thoughts are all not in the same direction so I don't know if saying that I have limited thinking is true in certain sense.
I guess I'm very confused. That should be the right way to put it.
I have thoughts... I'm thinking a lot but too many thoughts is leaving me confused and effecting the flow of thoughts into words....
I hope I'm able to come out soon from this state.
Friday, September 21, 2007
And I'm Back....
I was away for a long time...
Not that I wanted to but just couldnot help it....
But its also said that if you want to do something you always find a way.
Maybe there were other things in life which had become more important that they got done and this didn't.
Well, getting into another Philosophical frame of mind!
Must start writing immidiately.........
Not that I wanted to but just couldnot help it....
But its also said that if you want to do something you always find a way.
Maybe there were other things in life which had become more important that they got done and this didn't.
Well, getting into another Philosophical frame of mind!
Must start writing immidiately.........
Thursday, March 22, 2007
Most Ridiculous Fortune!
I'm sure all of us, even the non believers look at the future predictions at least once if we come across it.
I'm no different!!
So I tend to read my fortune on Orkut everyday..
Today I almost died laughing coz the fortune was the most ridiculous one I have even seen!
It Goes..
Today's fortune:
You and your wife will be happy in your life together
Time: 10.35 A.M, Date: 23rd March 2007
Well first and the most important point, I belong to Venus so I think having a wife now or anytime in future is almost impossible untill unless I plan to change my sex or my preferences, which seem most unlikely as on Today!
The second point is that I am single and donot know when will get married.
So this seems a BIT 2 far fetched or some wrong calculations
Whatever it is, it did make me laugh for a long time!
I'm no different!!
So I tend to read my fortune on Orkut everyday..
Today I almost died laughing coz the fortune was the most ridiculous one I have even seen!
It Goes..
Today's fortune:
You and your wife will be happy in your life together
Time: 10.35 A.M, Date: 23rd March 2007
Well first and the most important point, I belong to Venus so I think having a wife now or anytime in future is almost impossible untill unless I plan to change my sex or my preferences, which seem most unlikely as on Today!
The second point is that I am single and donot know when will get married.
So this seems a BIT 2 far fetched or some wrong calculations
Whatever it is, it did make me laugh for a long time!
Thursday, February 22, 2007
My Fortune!
My Today's Fortune as per Orkut.
Date: 22nd Feb 2007, 4.45 PM
"The luck that is ordained for you will be coveted by others!"
Date: 23rd Feb 2007, 4.55 PM
Today's fortune:
Luck is coming your way
Good Joke!
Date: 26th Feb 2007, 10.35 AM
Today's fortune:
You are next in line for promotion in your firm
A BAD Joke esp on a Monday Morning....
Date: 26th Feb 2007, 4.15 PM
Today's fortune:
A good time to finish up old tasks
HaHaHa.. A good one.. I suffer from the most deadly disease know to mankind.. Procrastination
Seems like Orkut guys read my blogs too.. A good way to get back at me!
Date: 22nd Feb 2007, 4.45 PM
"The luck that is ordained for you will be coveted by others!"
Date: 23rd Feb 2007, 4.55 PM
Today's fortune:
Luck is coming your way
Good Joke!
Date: 26th Feb 2007, 10.35 AM
Today's fortune:
You are next in line for promotion in your firm
A BAD Joke esp on a Monday Morning....
Date: 26th Feb 2007, 4.15 PM
Today's fortune:
A good time to finish up old tasks
HaHaHa.. A good one.. I suffer from the most deadly disease know to mankind.. Procrastination
Seems like Orkut guys read my blogs too.. A good way to get back at me!
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
This post doesn't have a title coz I can't think of an apt title....
Can you suggest something?
I am reading a novel these days.
I was on the lookout for this one for a LONG time and could not find it in Delhi.
Should I be surprised or should have expected it?
After all the book is about Bombay(I still prefer to address the city by it's old name).
The city I have fallen in love with.
I am reading Shantaram these days and I'm liking the way the author describes the city.
The way he has described his first brush with the city when he landed there is so similar to my first day in that city, full of apprehensions, new dreams and desires and a bit of fear.
That city embraced me willingly and displaced all my apprehensions and fears.
In most of my conversations I find myself speaking about Bombay.
I have been in love but the love I have for Bombay is much deeper and stronger than my love for an individual.
Crazy, isn't it?
But when have I claimed that I'm sane?
Can you suggest something?
I am reading a novel these days.
I was on the lookout for this one for a LONG time and could not find it in Delhi.
Should I be surprised or should have expected it?
After all the book is about Bombay(I still prefer to address the city by it's old name).
The city I have fallen in love with.
I am reading Shantaram these days and I'm liking the way the author describes the city.
The way he has described his first brush with the city when he landed there is so similar to my first day in that city, full of apprehensions, new dreams and desires and a bit of fear.
That city embraced me willingly and displaced all my apprehensions and fears.
In most of my conversations I find myself speaking about Bombay.
I have been in love but the love I have for Bombay is much deeper and stronger than my love for an individual.
Crazy, isn't it?
But when have I claimed that I'm sane?
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
The Thoughts
Of late a song has been keeping my mind occupied.
This song is one of my favorite songs and I keep listening to it whenever I can.
This song is one of my favorite songs and I keep listening to it whenever I can.
From the time I heard it for the first time, the song has never failed to amuse me and whenever I have ‘heard’ it again, it has shown me a new side, a new meaning.
The song I am talking about is ‘Main Yeh Soch Kar..’ sung by Mohd. Rafi. I’m reproducing the lyrics of the song here
The song I am talking about is ‘Main Yeh Soch Kar..’ sung by Mohd. Rafi. I’m reproducing the lyrics of the song here
Main Yeh Soch Kar…
Main ye soch kar uske dar se uthaa thaa, ke vo rok legii manaa legii mujhako.
Havaaon mein laharaataa aataa thaa daaman, ke daaman pakar kar bithaa legii mujhako.
Kadam aise andaaz se uth rahe the, ke aavaaz dekar bulaa legii mujhako.
Magar usane rokaa,
na usane manaayaa,
na daaman hii pakadaa,
na mujhako bithaayaa,
na aavaaz hii dii,
na vaapas bulaayaa,
Main aahistaa aahistaa badhataa hii aayaa, yahaan tak ke usase judaa ho gayaa main ...
My first thought (Impulsive)
Wow
Great Lyrics
Poor Guys (as in the couple who went through it)
Then I heard it again. (Feminist)
My thoughts were, what an idiot, what an egoistic chap. Good for the girl, she deserves someone better, someone who loves HER more and not his misplaced ego.
After a gap of few months I heard it again and felt fear. (One Side of The Coin)
The fear of rejection,
The fear of being alone,
The fear of feeling unwanted.
After this I stopped listening to this song.
Then out of the blue, a close friend mentioned it and I heard it again. (The Other Side of The Story)
I got goose bumps.
How would one feel to see the love of their life walking away.
To want to stop him/her but can’t.
To feel used.
Now when I hear it, I feel pity. (The Practical Me)
Pity for people who love someone but can’t communicate.
How can a relation survive where one is hesitant in sharing there thought with the other partner.
If you love someone, the love is unconditional and accepts the partner as is. If this is true then I don’t see any reason why one can’t convey what heart feels.
Well, if you want your partner to understand your unspoken words…. Then I guess, you are asking for too much......
My Mom has a different take on this song...
She showed me another meaning in this song
SACRIFICE.
As per her the lady has purposely decided not to stop the love of her life so that he could go ahead explore the world and conquer what he had set out for.
It's her love for him to set him free to be what he wants to be and if in the bargain she looses the love for ever she would accept that with a smile.....
Must say a very thought provoking interpretation...
The link to the video of the song
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