Past, has most of the time, brought a smile on my face. I cherish my memories of the 'good old days'...
I used to wonder, how will it be, to be able to relive/re-experience the past.
Then came along social networking sites like Orkut & FB.
Soon, there was a flood of know/some-what known faces.
A lot of 'networking' on social networking sites later, I got back in touch with many of my old friends (some foes too, but thats a different story & will come back to it later)... Many, I would have never found, but for the social networking sites.
Many 'conversations' followed. Chats, mails, sms, phone calls... Distance suddenly became immaterial. I entered my past with gay abandmonment, to relive it all over again.....
But, life is all about moving on... The initial euphoria died its own death. The friends remain & will for ever but, the equations have changed.
It is sometime difficult to take in that friends who were so close once, have become aquintence. Some, surface only when it's time to wish on an occassion. Few, don't even do that!
Let's stay in touch, I guess has become the most common, never followed line.
Yet, there is a silver lining.
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Why????????
I find this irritating.. Its then better to stay away from such 'friends'......
I intend doing that from now on!
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Time Flies
A few days back a small innocent comment made by an old friend triggered a new series of thought and interpretation of life.
Actually, during a small talk with a colleague the name of my friend Vikas came up and I realized that I have not spoken to him since a very long time.
So like a ‘good friend’ I called him at the next available opportunity.
After the regular exchange of accusings for not being in touch, we came to the second phase of the conversation, i.e. updating each other on the latest happenings in our respective lives.
Soon another playful disagreement started and I told him to not speak too much as I know him for over 7 years!
The response from the other end of the telephone line was unexpected, there was complete silence.
I thought that the line had got disconnected but that was not the case so I asked ”Vikas are you there?”.
He said, “I hope you are not joking, are you sure?”
Me, “I didn’t get you. Sure about what?”
He said, “That it is already over 7 years since we first met?”
Now it was my change to be silent and after sometime i.e. after mentally reconfirming the calculations I said, “Yes.”
He then jokingly added, “Do you remember that it used to a task to be able to sit through 1 1/2 hours for a single lecture and today we are so casually saying that 7 years have gone by.”
This comparison hit me hard.
WoW! Really!
Spending those 90 minutes used to be as if we were being tortured and today 7 years of our life has just slipped past.
But, has it slipped past or it has been lived?
A very subjective question.
The answer would most definitely be different for different people but it would be different even for one person when thought taking into consideration various aspects of life.
Some places we could have done very well and maybe at some other places we would have slipped completely.
Maybe career wise one may have achieved a land mark, but has the personal relations kept pace?
There used to be a time (at least in my case) when my friends were the most important thing in my life. Then it was making my career and now my Parents & family.
Are these just phases? Or just one relationship/element of life was placed higher on the pedestal.
I don’t know if I was successful or achieved everything possible in the respective phases of my life.
But I am just sure of one thing.
I had made a personal resolution very young in my life, that I would never regret anything that happened in my past for it was the best choice I made then with the knowledge I had at that time. Regret comes when we start evaluating our past decisions with our present knowledge which is unfair.
There are many things in my life which I wanted to do but didn’t.
But still I guess I am doing fine because I am not done yet.
So there was a time when 1 1/2 hour used to be too much to bear and there is a time when days no not days sometimes weeks and month pass by and we feel that Time Flies.
Actually, during a small talk with a colleague the name of my friend Vikas came up and I realized that I have not spoken to him since a very long time.
So like a ‘good friend’ I called him at the next available opportunity.
After the regular exchange of accusings for not being in touch, we came to the second phase of the conversation, i.e. updating each other on the latest happenings in our respective lives.
Soon another playful disagreement started and I told him to not speak too much as I know him for over 7 years!
The response from the other end of the telephone line was unexpected, there was complete silence.
I thought that the line had got disconnected but that was not the case so I asked ”Vikas are you there?”.
He said, “I hope you are not joking, are you sure?”
Me, “I didn’t get you. Sure about what?”
He said, “That it is already over 7 years since we first met?”
Now it was my change to be silent and after sometime i.e. after mentally reconfirming the calculations I said, “Yes.”
He then jokingly added, “Do you remember that it used to a task to be able to sit through 1 1/2 hours for a single lecture and today we are so casually saying that 7 years have gone by.”
This comparison hit me hard.
WoW! Really!
Spending those 90 minutes used to be as if we were being tortured and today 7 years of our life has just slipped past.
But, has it slipped past or it has been lived?
A very subjective question.
The answer would most definitely be different for different people but it would be different even for one person when thought taking into consideration various aspects of life.
Some places we could have done very well and maybe at some other places we would have slipped completely.
Maybe career wise one may have achieved a land mark, but has the personal relations kept pace?
There used to be a time (at least in my case) when my friends were the most important thing in my life. Then it was making my career and now my Parents & family.
Are these just phases? Or just one relationship/element of life was placed higher on the pedestal.
I don’t know if I was successful or achieved everything possible in the respective phases of my life.
But I am just sure of one thing.
I had made a personal resolution very young in my life, that I would never regret anything that happened in my past for it was the best choice I made then with the knowledge I had at that time. Regret comes when we start evaluating our past decisions with our present knowledge which is unfair.
There are many things in my life which I wanted to do but didn’t.
But still I guess I am doing fine because I am not done yet.
So there was a time when 1 1/2 hour used to be too much to bear and there is a time when days no not days sometimes weeks and month pass by and we feel that Time Flies.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
Black Or White???..... OR is it GREY!!!
The other day I was trying to help bridge a gap between two waring parties but things didn’t go as expected and I ended up in a not so happy situation.
I was asked to take sides!
Yes I was literally asked which team do I belong to?
Difficult question.
Difficult question??? Oh my God! The toughest question one can ever face.
Well, I tried to reason out but was categorically told say Yes or NO.
I only know how I managed to avert the situation…
But that did set me thinking on a new angle
Kitna Sahi Kaha Hai Kisi Ne…
Mein tere saath chal nahin sakta.Raasta bhee badal nahin sakta .Girna padta hai apne kadmon main.Yun to kaanta nikal nahin sakta.Raat kitni bhee saazishen kar le.Chand din mein nikal nahin sakta.Jisko apne pe e'tamaad nahin.Vo kabhee bhee sambhal nahin sakta.Chorna padti hai Zameen apni.Varna ooncha uchal nahin sakta.
Many times in life we reach a stage where things can’t be defined as either black or white.
Many times we prefer not to define life in these two brackets.
Certain emotions like love, for anyone, human, animals or even a ‘Biologically’ non living object lead us to such confusions. But, why does confusion arise..
If I Close my eyes and try to visualize confusion, I can see lots of dust particles, smoke etc moving around in the air… Something similar to when, say for example, two cars collide!
Yes, collision leads to confusion.
Confusion of who is right and who is not,
Confusion of who is wronged and who is not,
Confusion of who is to be blamed and who is not.
Life throws same situation infront of all of us in different forms.
It all boils down to the point of view.
A situation stuck me.
When I was not as old I am now, I used to either commute on foot or my bicycle. I used to sometimes get very irritated on the four wheel drivers and used to think all of them just want to crush us under there vehicle’s tyre and think that they rule the roads.
A Point of view. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Coming to today when I am as old as I am, I travel either on my scooter or car. I still get irritated but on the pedestrian trying to cross the road, or the bicycle guy who came infront of my car the other day. I feel that these people don’t know how to walk on a street or have come out because they want to commit suicide.
Another Point of View. I don’t see anything wrong with it either.
But now if these point of views collide, the same question, who is right?
The point is noone is right and both are.
This is what I call the grey area in life where no distinct Black or White exist.
Today, I can say this so calmly because I am sitting with a cool mind infront of my PC typing my thoughts with no one to disturb me… But when you are caught with other minds around you trying to influence you is it possible to maintain the same calmness???
I donno! The answer, depends again, Grey!!!
I was asked to take sides!
Yes I was literally asked which team do I belong to?
Difficult question.
Difficult question??? Oh my God! The toughest question one can ever face.
Well, I tried to reason out but was categorically told say Yes or NO.
I only know how I managed to avert the situation…
But that did set me thinking on a new angle
Kitna Sahi Kaha Hai Kisi Ne…
Mein tere saath chal nahin sakta.Raasta bhee badal nahin sakta .Girna padta hai apne kadmon main.Yun to kaanta nikal nahin sakta.Raat kitni bhee saazishen kar le.Chand din mein nikal nahin sakta.Jisko apne pe e'tamaad nahin.Vo kabhee bhee sambhal nahin sakta.Chorna padti hai Zameen apni.Varna ooncha uchal nahin sakta.
Many times in life we reach a stage where things can’t be defined as either black or white.
Many times we prefer not to define life in these two brackets.
Certain emotions like love, for anyone, human, animals or even a ‘Biologically’ non living object lead us to such confusions. But, why does confusion arise..
If I Close my eyes and try to visualize confusion, I can see lots of dust particles, smoke etc moving around in the air… Something similar to when, say for example, two cars collide!
Yes, collision leads to confusion.
Confusion of who is right and who is not,
Confusion of who is wronged and who is not,
Confusion of who is to be blamed and who is not.
Life throws same situation infront of all of us in different forms.
It all boils down to the point of view.
A situation stuck me.
When I was not as old I am now, I used to either commute on foot or my bicycle. I used to sometimes get very irritated on the four wheel drivers and used to think all of them just want to crush us under there vehicle’s tyre and think that they rule the roads.
A Point of view. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Coming to today when I am as old as I am, I travel either on my scooter or car. I still get irritated but on the pedestrian trying to cross the road, or the bicycle guy who came infront of my car the other day. I feel that these people don’t know how to walk on a street or have come out because they want to commit suicide.
Another Point of View. I don’t see anything wrong with it either.
But now if these point of views collide, the same question, who is right?
The point is noone is right and both are.
This is what I call the grey area in life where no distinct Black or White exist.
Today, I can say this so calmly because I am sitting with a cool mind infront of my PC typing my thoughts with no one to disturb me… But when you are caught with other minds around you trying to influence you is it possible to maintain the same calmness???
I donno! The answer, depends again, Grey!!!
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