Sexual exploitation @ work

Women across the world are familiar with this.

Many have had first hand experience & the lucky few have just heard stories. Sometimes, life throws you in tricky situations yet gets you out scratch free.
Recently, I came across the story of a girl who had a brush with sexual exploitation.

The story goes....
Anamika had recently joined the corporate world after her MBA. Like every other enthusiastic fresher, she plunged into the new world with full vigour & excitement.
Her job was client servicing & business development.
She, within few months had impressed her seniors with her diligence & work. Therefore, to encourage her & to use her potential to the maximum, the company gave her a very prestigious client to handle. All was going smooth & things were looking up for her.
One fine day she managed to get a big project from the high profile client. The head of operations at the client end seemed to be a nice & helpful person. He was very encouraging & that gave Anamika more confidence to push her companies case infront of the head operations. Anamika's hard work & diligence paid & she got the project. Her happiness knew no bounds.
But, the happiness was short lived. The coordination involved in the new project was very complicated & tiresome. Suddenly the client seemed non-cooperative. The client pre-poned the deadline of delivery & that put lot of stress on Anamika & her company.
With the help of the seniors in her company she devised a plan to workout the whole thing & deliver the project by the preponed deadline. The head of operations at the client end was kept in loop. Anamika had to go for an important meeting in relation to the project and that is when the head operations offered his help & said that he would accompany her to the meeting. This was a big help for Anamika as a man with so many years of experience would always add weight to her case.
The place of meeting was almost at the outskirts of the city, so, the head of operations conveyed that he would pick her up & they could go together in his car for the meeting.
At the designated time the head of operations picked her up and they set out to a long drive to the place of meeting.
Anamika was by now used to the constant frown & disapproving look from the head of operation but was in for a surprise today. She felt a sense of relief to see the smiling & chatty mood of the Head of operation.
The head of operation started asking Anamika about her life in the city & her background. Slowly his questions turned more personal and he started questioning her about her 'close' friends, boyfriends, her take on physical intimacy etc. She started getting very uncomfortable about the discussion but was unable to find a way to change the topic or express her discomfort/displeasure. Her non-decisiveness encouraged him further & he started talking about him & her and telling her that they should become 'closer' friends. He went on to add that he likes talking to her & would continue to 'help' her if she would agree to be his 'friend'.
She was getting confused, for she believed that friendship cannot happen through a deal, if one is destined to be friends they become friends.
While Anamika was confused and tried to make sense of the whole thing, the head of operation tried to reach her and hold her hand. She managed to dodge him. She was now feeling scared as now she was able to understand what this man meant. She opened her mouth to clarify the 'misunderstanding' and he immediately interrupted her and asked her to speak only in English and not to make sudden movement like she had done to dodge him. After all the driver could see and he would understand if she spoke in Hindi. Aah! The driver. Anamika suddenly felt a bit relieved. This man would not attempt anything till the driver was around, after all the head of operations was married with kids.. He had a 'reputation' to 'protect'.
With this knowledge she became a bit bold and managed to keep the head of operations at bay. Once they reached the place of meeting, she felt more confident & secure and had a plan in place. When the head of operations was not looking, she called one of her friends asking her to call her back exactly in 30 mins.

When the friend called back she posed as if something has gone horribly wrong at another place where a part of the work of the same client was being carried out. So, she requested the head of operations to 'tackle' the rest of the meeting here & that she needs to rush to the other place immediately. The head of operations had no option but to fall in line with her plan.
She ran from the place like she had just seen a ghost and thanked God for sending the driver as an angel whose presence helped her come out of the situation unscratched and wiser.
Through the rest of the execution of the order she managed to maintain a safe distance from the head of operation or meet him only when there were more people around.

Once the project got over, she unofficially spoke to her boss about the whole thing. The boss immediately understood her problem and moved her away from the account. Yes, she lost a very prestigious account but her santity and respect was more important.

What saddened me in this whole story was that Anamika had to be penalised without any fault of her. The whole incident was so situational that no one could actually make a complain about the head of operation. He went Scot free, free to harass some other innocent girl!
A girl when she works hard to rise in her career there are such people she has to encounter who are ready to pull her down or if she does not want to give up, she needs to go through them. So very unfair. Will this ever change, I wonder!

Past Imperfect!

Past, has most of the time, brought a smile on my face. I cherish my memories of the 'good old days'...

I used to wonder, how will it be, to be able to relive/re-experience the past.
Then came along social networking sites like Orkut & FB.
Soon, there was a flood of know/some-what known faces.
A lot of 'networking' on social networking sites later, I got back in touch with many of my old friends (some foes too, but thats a different story & will come back to it later)... Many, I would have never found, but for the social networking sites.

Many 'conversations' followed. Chats, mails, sms, phone calls... Distance suddenly became immaterial. I entered my past with gay abandmonment, to relive it all over again.....

But, life is all about moving on... The initial euphoria died its own death. The friends remain & will for ever but, the equations have changed.
It is sometime difficult to take in that friends who were so close once, have become aquintence. Some, surface only when it's time to wish on an occassion. Few, don't even do that!

Let's stay in touch, I guess has become the most common, never followed line.
Yet, there is a silver lining.

Whom does Bombay belong to?

'Aamchi Mumbai' is a very old term know to ALL who have ever lived or been to the city called Bombay.
I love the city and have spent some wonderful years living & working in the city. Bombay belongs to me... Most definitely it does.. But some say NO.

Some recent, politically motivated acts have created unnecessary discussions on, whom does Bombay belong to?
I was never good in History but have some basic knowledge in its right place.
So, I know that Bombay was once a clutter of seven islands, disconnected from each other.
The earliest inhabitants of the place were a community called 'Kolis', a fishing community. So, the kolis are the 'original' natives of Bombay & the city is theirs!

During 3rd century BCE, the place was ruled by 'Maurya Empire'. The kingdom originates from Magadh (modern Bihar, eastern Uttar Pradesh and Bengal)with it's capital at Patliputra (modern Patna). So, the next claimants to the city are the very people who are being asked to leave Bombay, the Biharis & UPiets.!. By the way during the Magadh empire, art, culture, development of city as Hindu & budhist centre started to take root.

The city was later taken over by 'Sihara dynasty'. What little I know of the dynasty, points that they originated from Southern part of the country and/or outskirts of present day Maharastra. So, South India has a claim on the city too.

Around 14th Century, the city went under islamic rule, the 'Gujurat Sultanate', with there base in Ahemedabad. During this period the Haji Ali mosque was built. So, Gujurati's have a claim on the city too.

Later, through a treaty, the city came under Portuguese rule & then under English rule. The economic & infrastructural development were the highlights of the city in 19th Century when it was under the British rule. We all our aware of the first railway line laid between Bombay & Thane. This was the period when the foundation of Bombay becoming a business hub was laid. Many business men from Kutch, Sind, Gujurat got attracted to the city. The reclaiming of land from the sea to join the seven island also happened during British rule. So, Britishers have a big role in making the city what it is today.

The presence of Maratha's is noted ONLY during the independence struggle.
Post independence too, Bombay was not part of Maharastra, it was an independent state named Bombay State.
The Government buckled under pressure & in 1960, Bombay became a part of Maharastra.

Considering this background of the city, how can ANYONE claim whom the city belongs to? The whole thing seems as ridiculous as saying that Delhi belongs to UP!
Infact, it would have made perfect sense had the city been left alone as a separate state/UT.

I love the city, it is one of the best place to stay in the country, let's not spoil that. But, is anyone listening?

Updates...Part 1

I have become a bit regular in updating my status on Facebook. So I thought to try & list them here, just for fun & to see how my last year was!
So, here I go with the first part of it. From beginning of 2009 till June 09.


Rash Sinha Soulful Music, Cool Breeze & My Thoughts.........
30 June at 23:44

Rash Sinha Another day gone by.... Almost!
30 June at 17:52

Rash Sinha Garaj Baras Sawan Ghir Aayo!!!!!! In a mood to Jive!!! Anyone game?????
30 June at 10:59

Rash Sinha & then it rained!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yipppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!! :))
30 June at 08:17

Rash Sinha The breeze is good... Can there be rain too............ Plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
29 June at 20:55

Rash Sinha The day is electrifying !!!!!
29 June at 15:51

Rash Sinha Edgy, irritated... Is it monday morning or heat coupled with power failure!
29 June at 10:36

Rash Sinha I love chocolate cake... esp the one that I baked!
29 June at 08:13

Rashi Sinha lo behold, the tigress is coming back to life..... RD Burman's music did the trick...... Happy B'day Pancham Da!!!
June 27 at 8:05pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha In hibernation. . . . .
June 24 at 5:03pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha I want to dance in the rain.....
June 24 at 10:52am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha listening to Gayatri Mantra.... It is amazing how calming it can be!
June 24 at 9:47am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is feeling overwhelmed..............
June 24 at 7:16am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha has recently come across many friends from past... If this is what future holds for me..... I'm too eager to live it!...:)
June 23 at 5:52pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha The heat is too hot to handle!
June 23 at 2:58pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is singing... It's music all around!
June 23 at 9:05am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha s wondering why the minute hand slows down whenever I want it to move fast?????? Please tick faster just today!
June 22 at 10:12pm · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha Whenever I feel I have seen enough.... I land myself in a situation that leaves me wondering.....................

Rashi Sinha Galaxy my playground, stars my strategies......
June 22 at 11:54am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Is looking forward to a productive day..... :)
June 22 at 9:31am · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha Why is Monday coming so soon..... :((
June 21 at 8:36pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha embraced by colours of emotion.......
June 19 at 11:20am · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha is suddenly struggling of words.. But I'll be back!
June 19 at 10:49am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha If life is a movie, I would like to meet the Producer, Director, Screenplay writer & the music director.... Can someone help me find them??? It's urgent... ;)
June 18 at 1:43pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha जाने कहां, कैसे शहर, ले कर चला ये दिल मुझे.......
June 17 at 11:42pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Hell got scared.... So they sent me back!!!
June 17 at 3:46pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha has decided to go with the flow & see where I land!
June 17 at 1:47pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is in two minds!
June 17 at 10:46am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha My head speaks a language, I don't understand......
June 15 at 10:05pm · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha My head speaks a language, I don't understand......
June 15 at 11:48am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is hoping for an Indian win today...(looks unlikely)!!!!!
June 15 at 12:30am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha had a good evening.... Looking forward to a good day tomorrow......
June 13 at 11:48pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is looking forward to a wonderful evening .... :)
June 13 at 2:39pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha twicking with twitter.....
June 12 at 10:32pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Can eating meetha sugar coat words????
June 11 at 3:23pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is still smiling....... :))
June 11 at 10:05am · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha Welcome rain, good food, good music & a pleasant company..... A mid week bonanza :)
June 10 at 11:17pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is trying to find the 'right' direction at the crossroad of thoughts!
June 10 at 1:20pm · Comment · Like
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Rashi Sinha is in sauna without the sauna......
June 9 at 11:44pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha छन: से जो टुटे कोई सपना............. तो बच के चलना रे बाबा............. नही तो कांटा लगा......... गाना पड जायेगा
June 9 at 12:33pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha sometimes its best not to try too hard!
June 8 at 11:01am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Possessiveness and Obsession.... How does one know when one is stepping from one to another.....
June 6 at 8:56pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha If you want to be happy.... Be Happy!!!
June 5 at 1:33pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha It was Great to meet you :).. But sad that the time flew...... :(
June 4 at 10:55pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha ..........bolo dekhaa hain kabhi, tumane mujhe udatey huye.........
June 4 at 3:39pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Driving a scratch free car...... :)
June 3 at 9:55am · Comment · Like


Rashi Sinha What am I supposed to do... Sit around and wait for you.. Well I cant do that.... And theres no turning back.... I need time to move on.... I need love to feel strong.... cos Ive had time to think it through.... And maybe Im too good for you!!!.......
June 2 at 9:44am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Har ek pal ko dhoondata, har ek pal chala gayaa................ Har ek pal guzar gaya, banaa ke dil pe ek nishaan.....
May 31 at 3:17pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Staring blankly at the screen.... No thoughts....... Don't know if its good or bad.... Wait n watch seems to be the best way
May 30 at 10:29pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha The journey was from this to that.. Now to What??? Clueless....
May 29 at 3:16pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Why Do I blow my fuse sometimes on trivial matters.. or is it that I expect too much????
May 28 at 11:08pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Ta Nana Nana Nana Naaaaaa...... Ta Nana Nana Nana Na...... Ta Nana Ta Nana Nana Naaaa................. Ta Nana Nana Nana Na :)))))
May 27 at 9:27am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha If you can't handle a completely honest answer...don't ask.......
May 26 at 2:03pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha My back has gone on strike & I'm in deep pain...
May 25 at 7:36pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Dilemma......To do or not to do..........
May 24 at 9:48pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha The heat seem to have gone to my head..... Unable to shrug off the headache.....
May 22 at 10:12am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Don't Lead.... I'll not follow.... Leave me & I would be there when you need me!
May 21 at 2:46pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Yuvi must be cursing Dhoni for the missed 'opportunity'!!!
May 21 at 10:33am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Suron Mein Meethas Jyada Hai..... Sanson Mein Ehsaas Jyada Hai. Kissi Ke Aane Ki Aahat..... Hansi Mein Khushi Jyada Hai.
May 19 at 11:40am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha this & that!
May 18 at 2:52pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha I laugh, for I don't like the attention when I don't.................
May 14 at 11:14pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha 'cause I got too much life, running through my veins, going to waste.......
May 14 at 10:27am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Uss raat darwaze pe dastak hui, darwaza khola to kissi ke hone ka ehsaas charo taraf tha...... Voh ehsaas liye ab tak ghoom rahi hu pur voh ab bhi nazar nahi aaya.......
May 13 at 12:21pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Dard e Dil, Dard e Jigar Dil Main Jagaya Aapne.............. Pal Pal Dil Ke Paas Tum Rehte Ho!
May 12 at 10:30pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Kal kya hoga kisko pata..........Yeh Lamha jee lene de!
May 12 at 10:30am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha A khichdi day.. Don't know if to feel happy or bite my nails.... Numbness never looked this attractive!
May 11 at 4:33pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is hoping to have a good day tomorrow.... The stage is set!
May 5 at 11:15pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Not in best of my mood.......
May 4 at 10:35pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Happiness, A state of mind or an emotion from the heart?
May 2 at 1:14pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Is my Brain coming out of coma or is it my imagination!
April 30 at 3:59pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Wrong Signals.. Not Brain Dead yet... In Coma!!!
April 27 at 12:04pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Contemplating going to ICU. I'm brain dead!
April 25 at 11:57pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Kings XI registered their first win & got hugs from Preity..... finally! :)))
April 24 at 11:43pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : The KKR Vs RR match was great! Total Paisa Vasool....
April 24 at 11:56am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha feels life should not always be a bunch of flowers!!!
April 22 at 5:21pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is pissed with people who ask you to call back & then don't pick your call..... Losers!!!!!!!!!!
April 21 at 12:46pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha can see some light.. May resurface soon.................
April 14 at 7:22pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is buried under piles of work.. Would take some time to resurface!
April 7 at 10:03am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is hopping & humming!!!
March 27 at 8:34pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Zindagi Zinda dilo ke naam..... Murda dil kya khakh jiya karte hai!!!
March 27 at 1:47pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is excited about nose piercing!!!
March 26 at 11:36am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is interested in a parallel dimension hand shake!
March 25 at 10:25am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is having fun & still laughing.....
March 24 at 8:15pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :It is a bright & lovely world.......
March 24 at 10:41am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is satisfied with the way the day went & looking forward to a even better day tommorow.....
March 23 at 6:44pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha chilling at home with a book in hand!!!!
March 22 at 1:36pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha enjoyed the drive to office......
March 21 at 9:44am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Is popping in the popped out thoughts.....
March 20 at 10:26am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :It is a hectic week.....
March 18 at 9:25pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha has nothing to mind in the mind....
March 16 at 3:07pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :Preoccupation is a time consuming occupation...
March 15 at 4:58pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is preoccupied......
March 14 at 6:42pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha Colour Splashes..........
March 10 at 3:27pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Oohhh Lala....
March 9 at 6:15pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :Hoping for another win for India in NZ!
March 6 at 6:40am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Life is a mixture of aahhhs & oopps!!!
March 5 at 9:18am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is shifting gears.......
March 4 at 3:23pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is in thinking mode..............
March 4 at 8:40am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Decision Taken.............................
March 3 at 8:42am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha had an interesting time yesterday..........
March 2 at 9:19am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :Why high decible music not possible in office................
February 28 at 8:38am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha remembered, Life is Zoom.....................
February 27 at 3:29pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is in a different world.......
February 24 at 6:45pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is enjoying slow romantic numbers....
February 23 at 10:09pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha To Moon & Back..... It was a nice trip
February 23 at 2:28pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :Oscars come to India.......... Jai Ho!!!
February 23 at 9:15am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is planning to go over the moon........
February 21 at 9:49am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is still doing the unthinkable.....
February 20 at 10:01am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is doing the unthinkable.....
February 19 at 3:59pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha :A positive thought gifts you a positive outcome.
February 17 at 9:02am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha : Aahaa! It's Monday again!
February 16 at 10:09am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is being!!!!
February 10 at 9:23pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha missed an accident by whiskers yesterday..... Damn!!!!
February 10 at 9:03am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha can't believe that she is in high spirits even though she is inching towards a Maniac Monday!!!!
February 8 at 9:16pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is back....but is possesed by spirits........ high spirits.....
February 5 at 11:44am · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is not well..... But still in great spirits!!!
February 3 at 3:16pm · Comment · Like

Rashi Sinha is in high spirits.......Sania-Bhupathi win Aus Open mixed doubles.... Yeppeee!!!!!!!!
February 1 at 11:47pm · Comment · Like

Search!

So many bridges crossed,
so many paths explored,
so many seas sailed through.....
Still I'm searching for something
I do not know yet, What am I searching?

With every moment,
time is slipping by!
Will I even know
what I am looking for?

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Happy & openly Gay

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A news piece that consensual sex with same sex has been decriminalised in India by Delhi High Court made me cheer.. Kudos to the Judge for passing this judgement.
The reason for my happiness has nothing to do with my orientations but the thought behind it & the maturity of the decision.

I don't understand why do we have this urge to control everything, even grown up adults. Are we of the opinion that a person who can run his own business, take care of his family, can become an international success, take many important decision yet need to be policed on some basic desires & wants? Law is a mechanism to keep things civilised and in order, but the extent of the same need to be defined by us.

The high court decision on merit needs to be applauded, damn the fanatics.
The day the decision was passed I chanced to see a panel discussion on TV regarding the decision. One of the panelist, a so called guru seemed perturbed by the court decision and said something to the effect that due to this decision, human race is in danger as all would want to be with a partner of same sex (as if one is getting some special favour or perk by doing so!) and was concerned on the future of the process of reproduction! This sounded so hilarious & it became the joke of the day for me.

My lawyer cousin had come home the other day and among many things we discussed this decision too. He explained the basic crux of Article 377 & I was taken aback by something he said.
As per the article 377 one could be booked in case he/she indulged in three kind of sex viz: Anal, Oral &/or with animal. Further, the it says that the complain can be lodged by third party too. This was a shocker. Physical intimacy is a very person thing & how can law allow & consider it ok for a third person to peep into someones private space! Shouldn't such complainant booked under trespassing!

Strange are the laws of the land!!!!!
In the mean time lets rejoice for this may be just the beginning for the law getting more human! A wish of an eternal optimist!!! :)

Emotions............

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What are emotions???


A chemical 'locha' as per a famous hindi movie or something more...
Why do we feel emotions.. How?????

It's such an interesting topic yet never thought about it till now....

According to Wikipedia....

An emotion is a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behavior. Emotions are subjective experiences, or experienced from an individual point of view. Emotion is often associated with mood, temperament, personality, and disposition.

Emotions is what we feel.. Right???
Sometimes then, if the same situation/person presents itself infront of us at different times why do we react differently.

There would be many examples where our feelings or emotions were different for a person one day & after sometime without any apperent change in status quo, the feelings changes.

Sometimes you feel a rush of emotions & at other times you are cold. Why?
What happens if an emotion like love is not reciprocated?
It can many times take life. Is emotion that strong chemical 'locha' that it can cause someone to take anothers' or one own selfs' life....
Why is it that on certain days when one gets up, is singing & on another growling at everything coming infront of it!

May be I don't understand emotions atall or 'am completely ruled by it!
Why can't there be a standard for behaviour.. It would make life so simple & easy... Maybe a bit boring too.. But still it may just help!