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So many bridges crossed,
so many paths explored,
so many seas sailed through.....
Still I'm searching for something
I do not know yet, What am I searching?

With every moment,
time is slipping by!
Will I even know
what I am looking for?

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Happy & openly Gay

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A news piece that consensual sex with same sex has been decriminalised in India by Delhi High Court made me cheer.. Kudos to the Judge for passing this judgement.
The reason for my happiness has nothing to do with my orientations but the thought behind it & the maturity of the decision.

I don't understand why do we have this urge to control everything, even grown up adults. Are we of the opinion that a person who can run his own business, take care of his family, can become an international success, take many important decision yet need to be policed on some basic desires & wants? Law is a mechanism to keep things civilised and in order, but the extent of the same need to be defined by us.

The high court decision on merit needs to be applauded, damn the fanatics.
The day the decision was passed I chanced to see a panel discussion on TV regarding the decision. One of the panelist, a so called guru seemed perturbed by the court decision and said something to the effect that due to this decision, human race is in danger as all would want to be with a partner of same sex (as if one is getting some special favour or perk by doing so!) and was concerned on the future of the process of reproduction! This sounded so hilarious & it became the joke of the day for me.

My lawyer cousin had come home the other day and among many things we discussed this decision too. He explained the basic crux of Article 377 & I was taken aback by something he said.
As per the article 377 one could be booked in case he/she indulged in three kind of sex viz: Anal, Oral &/or with animal. Further, the it says that the complain can be lodged by third party too. This was a shocker. Physical intimacy is a very person thing & how can law allow & consider it ok for a third person to peep into someones private space! Shouldn't such complainant booked under trespassing!

Strange are the laws of the land!!!!!
In the mean time lets rejoice for this may be just the beginning for the law getting more human! A wish of an eternal optimist!!! :)

Emotions............

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What are emotions???


A chemical 'locha' as per a famous hindi movie or something more...
Why do we feel emotions.. How?????

It's such an interesting topic yet never thought about it till now....

According to Wikipedia....

An emotion is a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behavior. Emotions are subjective experiences, or experienced from an individual point of view. Emotion is often associated with mood, temperament, personality, and disposition.

Emotions is what we feel.. Right???
Sometimes then, if the same situation/person presents itself infront of us at different times why do we react differently.

There would be many examples where our feelings or emotions were different for a person one day & after sometime without any apperent change in status quo, the feelings changes.

Sometimes you feel a rush of emotions & at other times you are cold. Why?
What happens if an emotion like love is not reciprocated?
It can many times take life. Is emotion that strong chemical 'locha' that it can cause someone to take anothers' or one own selfs' life....
Why is it that on certain days when one gets up, is singing & on another growling at everything coming infront of it!

May be I don't understand emotions atall or 'am completely ruled by it!
Why can't there be a standard for behaviour.. It would make life so simple & easy... Maybe a bit boring too.. But still it may just help!

Why????????

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Why don't people call & when you do they blame you for not keeping in touch.......
I find this irritating.. Its then better to stay away from such 'friends'......
I intend doing that from now on!

Aah! here I come with another song which I like a lot.......

Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna

Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna

Angana phool khilege

Barsega saawan, barsega saawan Jhoom jhoom ke

Do dil aise milenge

Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna

Angana phool khilege

Naina tere kajrare

Naino pe hum dil hare hai

Anjane hi tere naino ne
Waade kiye kaie saare hai

Saanso he leher madam chale

To tu kahe barsega saawan Barsega saawan jhoom jhoom ke

Do dil aise milenge
Aaoge Jab Tum Saajna

Angana phool khilege

Chanda ko uta lakho mein

Yeh zindagi tere haton mein

Palko pe jil mil tare hai

Aana bahri barsato mein

Sapno ka jahan

Hoga khila khila

Barsega saawan, barsega saawan Jhoom jhoom ke

Do dil aise milenge

A very soulful melody with wonderful lyrics.......A song ful of hope & future.... Love it!

Profession Flaunting......

A very weird phenomenon which I have observed in recent past is flaunting ones profession....

Many have started putting stickers on there vehicle announcing to the world their profession. I am sure many would have noticed & also done this them selves.

This phenomenon (if my memory serves me correctly) was restricted to Government vehicles including Defence (but not personal vehicles of employees) & Doctors few years back.

Government Vehicles used it basically to get priority on road & easy access everywhere without stopping & proving identity. The Doctor sign was more for ready help in a pre - mobile era.

In recent years the trend spread it wings to many more sectors & professions & I find it funny.

Defence: Army, Navy or Air Force pasted on the windscreen or mud guard of two wheeler was done basically due to registration plate. Defence along with certain section of Central govt employees have a highly transferable jobs & they can't change registration numbers of their vehicle every two years so the stickers served the purpose of being not stopped & questioned by traffic cops.

Press: This started as a means to get easy access to the "News". But with the increase in the number of media houses, it has reached such levels that about every 5th Car flaunts a 'PRESS' tag. Anybody who has anything remotely to do with print/electronic/radio media starts using this so called label. I have even seen vendors of these companies (I call them companies n not media houses coz they are just business entities, all of them without exception) who supply just the regular office stationery also use it for their 'perceived' benefit.

Other Professions: Today even a lawyer has a sticker on his vehicle. I do not understand the purpose it would serve. May be I am naive.

Once a colleague told me (about the sticker on her car) that it helps. Helps? I asked. Well, it helps when I drive outside the city especially to my relatives place who are not living in a metro.

Now I get it. You want to flaunt it, it has become a trend & a status symbol of sorts. Actually, flaunt what you are not. Because PRESS has a specific need and use & every person working in Media does not come under the blanket of Press....

25 Things About Me.....

I was tagged to the topic by Anu Di & this is what I came up with..............

1. I still don't know what I wanna do in life.... (I'm a wanderer)

2. I love fantasies & living in dreamland... (No wonder I love sleeping)

3. I have at few occasions beaten up men (read eve teasers) & got away with it everytime.

4. I'm a very straight forward, in your face, simple person, yet many find me very complicated...

5.I love prasing myself & love it even more when people appreciate/compliment me... (I may manage to maintain a straight face but I'm over the moon at that moment)

6. I love acting & do a good job at it.

7. I'm an incorrigible flirt & do a good job at it too.

8. My views on marriage prompt my friends to comment that I'm an old timer who has landed in new age by mistake.

9. I love driving & enjoy my music with it. But I love riding my scooter more.

10. I can go any length for my friends.

11. I wanna participate in rally driving atleast once.

12. I wanna write a book sometime in future (I have many ideas already jumping in my head). I love reading fiction/non fiction too.

13. I am an extremely lazy person & donno how I have typed so much...

14. I'm multifaced, self contradicting personality and believe in Richard Bach's idea of parallel/alternate dimensions...

15. I love to dance & be merry!

16. I hate to take bath everyday but do it anyways!

17. I love to swim, ride bicycle, play Basket ball & watch cricket but have  not done it for a long time!!!

18. I have a dark/illegal side but have managed to curb it.

19. I think I have found my soulmate (I thank God for it everyday)

20. I'm exteremely critical of myself & full of self doubt.

21. I'm not as confident & fearless as I potray.

22. I donno english & am very unsure while using the language.

23. I hate questions like, "What is your plan for your future?" (I donno what I would do the next minute!!! Future is out of focus entirely)

24. I love life & try to extract the maximum from each day.

25. I am surprised at myself. I had thought I wouldnot be able to go beyond 10!!!

The Girl Child…….

There is lot being said about the female foeticide and maybe a lot is also done to prevent it! Moreover, the boy vs girl comparisons never end. In middle of all this I read Mr. Amitabh Bachchan's blog and his speech delivered at Ms. Shobha De's book launch. After reading his blog entry, I couldnot resist my flow of thoughts and posted a comment there.

I am reproducing my comment here.....

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Should I thank God? I ask this to myself quite often! One may ask, why?

The reason, we are a family of four and I’m the youngest. My parents have two daughters! I dont think (or rather believe) that my parents ever thought that we being girls are any less than anyone in the world or they as Parents of ‘just’ girls are any inferior/’different’.The point here is also that when my sister was born there was pure joy all around. But, with my birth the joy was a notch lesser. Here I’m not talking of my parents but few members of our extended family and friends!

I remember people asking me ‘You dont have a brother!??!!’ As if it was a sin! I felt bad.
But, I know I’m one of the God’s special child and thats why can bounce back with optimism, smile and all things positive almost immidiately.My grandparents were also extemely protective of me and my Parents against any comment made on the female gender and I don’t think they ever treated me or my sister any different from my male cousins.
Inspite of the attitude of my family I’m aware that I’m a girl child!I shudder at the thought, what a child would be going through where there is descrimination.
Women today have come a long way but still there is lot that needs to be done and at that point when you see a person of your stature (Refered to Mr. Bachchan) and influence taking up the cause, one feels that one day this battle would definitely be won!
Thank You God once again for such people!
Regards,Rashi

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Yes its true, though I have never faced any discrimination at home, I'm still aware about such comparisons....

Be it studies, falling in love, working or driving a vehicle...... Girls are looked down upon...

Certain comments I have heard over the years (some targetted at me some at other females)

1. Ladki ho jayada pad ke kya karogi? Tumhe to ghar he sambhalna hai. (You are a girl, whats the need to attain higher education? Athe end of it all you have to just take care of the household work)

2. Bank Cash Counter Line/ Railway reservation line: The line is moving very slow as there is memsaab (lady) sitting there.

3. The girl is very smart! She managed to entangle that bright n intelligent boy in her web of love by batting eyelid!

4. Did you see that vehicle? It swinged so dangerously! I'm sure a girl must be driving it.

5. A freek accident: I'm sure a girl is behind it!

6. Oh its all so easy for the girls, they come decked up to office and take the promotion!

There are many more..... But the point is will we ever stop behaving this way?